When was the last time you cried, and truly allowed yourself to cry?

For so many of us, we have be taught since childhood to stop crying, to be soothed, to self soothe, and ultimately, to stop the tears. When we cry in front of people, their reaction is either one of discomfort, or one of wanting us to feel better.

But what if there was a third option – to sit in it. To sit with those uncomfortable feelings, and to let the tears fall. How would that feel?

In therapy, it’s absolutely ok to cry. Often, we are talking about potentially difficult or challenging topics, that you might not have ever spoken to anyone about, and tears can sometimes flow when we least expect them – sadness, frustration, anger, disappointment – and it’s ok.

The most important thing to know about therapy with me, is that I’m not going to rush to comfort you. Instead, I’m going to hold that space for you to take as much time as you want to let yourself feel what you need to feel.

And a lot of things can come up. It can feel very vulnerable to cry in front of someone, but it can also generate feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment. Let alone the feelings around what triggered the crying in the first place.

Counselling is a safe and confidential environment for you to gently explore as much of these things as you feel you want to, at a pace that is comfortable for you.

While this may seem daunting, many people experience a benefit to doing this, and talk of feeling like the weight that has been held on their shoulders have lifted.

If this seems like something you may benefit from, get in touch with me to book a free initial 10-minute chat to see if we could work together, either via telephone, online, or face-to-face counselling from my therapy space in Conwy, North Wales.